Do you struggling with the following:
– “I masturbate multiple times a day. I am at the point that it’s not even enjoyable every time, but I can’t seem to stop.”
– “I watch porn numerous hours every day. I want to initiate sex with my wife more often, but I can’t seem to tear myself away from my computer.”
CAN SEX THERAPY HELP?
We treat out of control sexual behaviors with the OCSB model developed by Doug Braun-Harvey and Michael Vigorito (“Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior: Rethinking Sex Addiction” Springer Publishing Company 2016 ). We do not use the addiction framework or 12-step program, which employs a trauma-based model aiming to treat a person’s “disorder”. Rather than assess a person with having a sex or intimacy disorder, we help individuals who feel out of control with sexual thoughts, urges, and behaviors become accountable to living a life of optimum sexual health.
Some facts and definitions:
1) Sexology is the scientific study of sexual health. Sexological training is comprehensive, nationally certified by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT, www.aasect.org).
2) The Sex Addiction field has 1700 certified therapists (CSATs), yet NO required sexological training.
3) The OCSB model employs a sexological framework to help counter our sexually illiterate society. We are not CSAT professionals. We are highly trained sexuality specialists treating a sexual health problem.
4) The World Health Organization (WHO) defined sexual health as one of the four key pillars to human health. It is defined as the following:
“Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled.” (WHO, 2006a)
5) Sexuality is an integral part of who we are as human beings.
“Sexuality a central aspect of being human throughout life encompasses sex, gender identities and roles, sexual orientation, eroticism, pleasure, intimacy and reproduction. Sexuality is experienced and expressed in thoughts, fantasies, desires, beliefs, attitudes, values, behaviors, practices, roles and relationships. While sexuality can include all of these dimensions, not all of them are always experienced or expressed. Sexuality is influenced by the interaction of biological, psychological, social, economic, political, cultural, legal, historical, religious and spiritual factors.” (WHO, 2006a)
6) The OCSB model does not use a 12-step framework to treat “sex addiction.” OCSB aims to deconstruct the shame loop that keeps us imprisoned in feeling out of control, and helps support the client to find healthy sexuality and optimum sexual health, individually and in relationship.
We offer Non-12 Step Treatment for *Sex Addiction* (Individuals) – helping individuals manage undesirable and out of control sexual behavior, urges, and feelings.
We offer Non-12 Step Treatment for *Sex Addiction* (Couples) – helping couples heal to unearth sexual secrets to heal and rebuild trust