When I was a young boy, both my mother and father loved to garden. I too inherited this deep love of gardening and how lessons from my garden tie into deeper meanings of life. My garden has taught me that there has to be death in order for life to flourish. To bring a new life of various fruits and vegetables, a garden relies on compost, mulch, and soil—all of which are from living things that have died. I have watch some fruits and vegetables succeed, and others die away due to lack of space in the garden bed, inexperience, or fickle weather.
Death provides the foundation for a rich environment of growth. It can be painful, scary, and incredibly challenging, especially when we live in a society that shies away from death at all costs. People who have experienced the death of a loved one often struggle alone, and can be made to feel like a leper, as if death is somehow contagious if we talk about it.
When we embrace death as an inevitable and important part of life and face the lessons it has to offer us, we will come out of depths of grief reformed into a stronger, clearer, more human version of ourselves. The important piece is for us to slow down enough to truly feel all that we can from the experience, soak it in, and then learn to integrate it into our lives. When we try to fight feeling the extent of our grief, we also limit our ability to live, and love.
Like a garden, every season offers us a chance to explore what parts of ourselves that have died and now need to be replaced. As we move into autumn, I invite you to see how you can learn from these losses and embrace the growth that you are capable of in your life?